Parenting School Age Children, Session 4 As parents, it’s easy to fall into the trap of lecturing to our children. Often, in an attempt to be efficient, we deal with improper behavior by lecturing our children, rather than engaging them in a more effective manner. In this session, we take a look at some goals for communicating with our children - chiefly to seek to understand their hearts.
Tripp lays out a two-pronged approach to discipline that combines the use of what he calls the rod (that is, spanking) with deep communication. He argues that both are needed in equal measure for a balanced and Godly approach to shepherding our children.
Tripp writes, “Communication not only disciplines, it also disciples. It shepherds your children in the ways of God.”
We must break free from the thinking that arises out of our busyness and leads to parenting choices based on expediency. Deep communication takes time, and Deuteronomy 6 commands us to make the time necessary to understand our children and let them be understood: “Impress (these commandments) on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”