Child Dedication

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We celebrate child dedication services at Sojourn because we recognize our God-given responsibility as parents, and because we know that our home needs God’s help.  We dedicate our kids because we want to partner with our church family–making a commitment to raise our children in light of God’s promises. Our next Child Dedication service is April 21st. To participate, sign up below for the April 14th Dedication Class. The class is a learning experience designed to prepare you for what will take place during the dedication service. And it is also a party—a celebration of the gift of life that God has given you in your new child!

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7 Lies That Keep Parents From Praying, #7

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The seventh lie that keeps us from prayer is this…

7. “I don't have time to pray, because I have so much to do." "My thoughts are so busy that I can't focus." This is the lie of busyness. We say we're too busy, but what we are really saying is... "I am made for this world only. I’m not an eternal creature with a heavenly perspective.”

If we love people we are going to be busy. We see this in Jesus’s life! There is a really helpful quote in this section of Paul Miller's book that says “Prayer doesn’t offer us a less busy life­. It offers us a less busy heart.” By praying, we can experience God and His peace in the midst of our busy lives.

How can we have a heavenly perspective when we are living in this world? We can pray for love as we go to discipline our children. We can pray for a wisdom when we have no idea how to respond to an attitude of disrespect. We can pray for peace when we are feeling overwhelmed by the demands of our children! Colossians 3:1 says, "If you have been raised with Christ, set your affections on things above. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God."

This world seems so real to us! But it is passing away. It is not true reality for us. We should not be consumed by the things of this life because we have died to this world, and our identity, our lives, are hidden with Christ in God.

The response to busyness is believing you pray as one who is not of this world.

When we are tempted to believe that the things of this world are more pressing and important than eternal matters, we can pray this Psalm which keeps an eternal perspective on our journey through life:

 1 The LORD is my shepherd, I lack nothing. 2 He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, 3 he refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake. 4 Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.

 5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. 6 Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.

Psalm 23

The good news is, there is forgiveness when we repent of these lies and believe truths. And as we wrestle through these doubts, God is gracious to draw near to us in the midst of them.

The 7 lies are adapted from Megan’s notes for the Child Dedication class. Our Child Dedication services are Sunday, October 21st. Come join in the celebration!

7 Lies That Keep Parents From Praying, #6

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The sixth lie that keeps us from prayer is this…

6. Self­-Reliance. While we might not say it, deep down we often think "I don't need to pray, because I can handle it." When we do pray, often we are essentially praying, "Lord, please bless my efforts." We are thinking of ourselves as God. We have our lives under control. Paul Miller writes, “If you are not praying, then you are quietly confident that time, money, and talent are all you need in life.” Is this convicting? What does this look like in your life?

For me, when my child is disobeying I brainstorm some way to manipulate better behavior. Then, at the end of the day I pray, “God­, help this to teach her to stop doing that." Really, that prayer is just an afterthought because I think I know how to solve this problem! But, in reality, we are really desperate for God. Colossians 1:16-17 says, "Christ is before all things and in him all things hold together." Things don’t depend on us. They depend on him.

The response to self-reliance is believing that we can let go of our anxieties in prayer, because God is the one in control, ­not us.

When we are tempted to believe we have what it takes to do life on our own, we can be reminded of our complete dependence on God for all things, and pray Psalm 131:

 1 My heart is not proud, LORD,     my eyes are not haughty;  I do not concern myself with great matters     or things too wonderful for me.  2 But I have calmed and quieted myself,     I am like a weaned child with its mother;     like a weaned child I am content.

 3 Israel, put your hope in the LORD     both now and forevermore.

Psalm 131

The 7 lies are adapted from Megan’s notes for the Child Dedication class. Our Baby Dedication services are Sunday, October 21st. Come join in the celebration!

7 Lies That Keep Parents From Praying, #5


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The fifth lie that keeps us from prayer is this...

5. "I feel burdened to pray, but it feels obligatory. I know that I should pray, but I don’t want to.” Basically, when I pray I feel holy. When I don’t, I feel guilty. The root issue of this lie is the idea of works righteousness. Praying more makes me a better Christian, and, on the other side, when I don’t have long prayer times, I feel guilt from not “doing” enough. Both perspectives view prayer as a good work and not a means of grace; as something we do for God; something that pleases Him.

Consider the parable of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector in Luke 18:9­-18. If our prayers are the prayers of the pharisee (good works done to earn God’s favor), then they will become drudgery. But, if we enter into prayer expecting to receive from God, then we will pray like the tax collector. And we will RECEIVE mercy and grace in our time of need. (Hebrews 4:16). In fact, Romans 8:26 says that we really do not even know what to pray, but the Spirit intercedes for us.

Sometimes we focus too much on the prayer itself instead of God. Our goal is to experience God, and prayer is the means by which we get to know Him. When we fail to pray, we are really forfeiting the grace we could be experiencing and withholding that from ourselves.We don’t pray to gain favor for better results with our children. We pray because, when we do, we recognize that we can not control their hearts, only God is able to do that. And in those moments we find rest from our futile efforts and worries.

The response to thinking our prayers make us holy is believing that we always pray imperfectly as sinners who can approach God in Jesus’ name.

When we are tempted to think of prayer as an obligation or when we feel guilty for not praying enough, we can pray Psalm 51 and remember that we are sinners who can boldly approach the throne of grace because our high priest, Jesus, has made a way for us.

1 Have mercy on me, O God,     according to your unfailing love;  according to your great compassion     blot out my transgressions.  2 Wash away all my iniquity     and cleanse me from my sin.

 3 For I know my transgressions,     and my sin is always before me.  4 Against you, you only, have I sinned     and done what is evil in your sight;  so you are right in your verdict     and justified when you judge.

Psalm 51:1-4

The 7 lies are adapted from Megan’s notes for the Child Dedication class. Our Child Dedication services are Sunday, October 21st. Come join in the celebration!

7 Lies That Keep Parents From Praying, #4


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Before continuing with the seven lies that keep us from praying, I thought it would be helpful to review a few tools that aid us in prayer:

  • Notecards: In his book, A Praying Life, Paul Miller highlights notecards and journals. Miller dates his cards and places a person's name at the top. Then, below he can put down a Scripture passage or bullet points that he is praying for the person. I've found that the "Notes" app on an iPhone works just as well.
  • Journals: Prayer is interconnected with every aspect of your life, because all of your life is part of God’s story. Miller says, “Learning to pray is almost identical to maturing over a lifetime.  What does it feel like to grow up?  It is a thousand feelings on a thousand different days.  That is what learning to pray feels isn't something you accomplish in a year.  It is a journey of a lifetime." Sometimes journaling or just making notes of our prayers can open our eyes to God’s hand in this journey, especially over longer periods of time.
  • Praying Blessings. For each of the lies that keep us from prayer, I've provided model prayers from the Psalms. The psalms can provide a model for praying blessings over our children as well. David Michael's A Father's Guide for Blessing His Children outlines how to turn psalms into blessing prayers.

Here is the fourth of seven lies that keep parents from praying. At this point in the list, I'm transitioning from lies we believe about God to lies we believe about ourselves.

4. I need to protect myself. We might say, "I don't know how or what to pray for. What if I pray something that is not God's will? I'm afraid to pray for what I really want."

Why are we afraid to be honest with God about our true desires? We are really trying to protect ourselves from realization that we are not in control; from the realization that we are not holy; from the realization that we are not powerful. If we could control God and make him answer the way we want, praying would be easy, but when I am willing to pray even for my selfish desires, I confess that I am out of control. This means we can pray for our children honestly­--for their good health, for their academic/athletic success, for their repentance and salvation. God is the one who ultimately decides what he will give. But, nevertheless, he wants us to ask and believe that he gives good gifts to us, because we are his children.

The response to a desire for self-­protection is believing that we can pray with childlike faith because we have a good Father who knows what is best for us.

When we are struggling to be honest with God, we can trust in our Father’s goodness and confess that we are dependent on Him for everything.  Psalm 103 is an example of what this looks like:

1 Praise the LORD, my soul; all my inmost being, praise his holy name. 2 Praise the LORD, my soul, and forget not all his benefits— 3 who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, 4 who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, 5 who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.

6 The LORD works righteousness and justice for all the oppressed.

13 As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him; 14 for he knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust.

Psalm 103:1-6, 13-14

The 7 lies are adapted from Megan’s notes for the Child Dedication class.